In the wake of the many tragic events that have occurred in our society, it is time we address bullying.
Bullying is a difficult subject to address because many times adults may not know it is happening. My Secret Bully by Trudy Ludwig helps parents and teachers address this issue. Monica is emotionally bullied by a friend that she has had since Kindergarten. Katie, the bully, is nice to Monica at times and at other times she is quite mean. This leaves Monica feeling hurt and confused.
The author captivates the reader by presenting a real life problem that many people encounter. Then Monica tries to address the issue with Katie by talking about it. Katie makes Monica feel like there isn’t anything wrong and that she is just being too sensitive. Monica continues to endure this emotional drama until it starts to affect her health. Monica talks to an adult who truly listens to her. She doesn’t just brush her off and say, “That’s just the way girls are.” Monica learns how to use her voice and stand up for herself. The author sends a powerful message about loving and respecting yourself enough not to let others hurt you.
The illustrations in this book, by Abigail Marble, helped me really connect with the character. I couldn’t help but feel hurt, confused, and then empowered.
At the end of the book the author includes helpful tips, discussion questions, and additional resources to help others that may be encountering a form of bullying. Hopefully, by better understanding bullying, we can equip our children with the tools they will need to overcome bullying, while still having confidence, pride, and self-worth.
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Hands & Words Are Not for Hurting Project
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International Bullying Prevention Association (IBPA)
PO Box 2288
East Falmouth, MA 02536
The Ophelia Project
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Erie, PA 16505